Friendship is an area that I have discussed on my blog before, however it is something that I feel is worthy to be raised again!
One lady, whose daughter is now 16, recently wrote to me about the friends she met at antenatal classes;
‘It’s amazing work you do and I’m sure all your expectant mums are very grateful to you and will be for years to come. I would have struggled a lot more in the early years without those good friends to share experiences and ideas, and with our ‘little ones’ in their teens now we still continue to support each other.’
My only advice is to refrain from the ‘comparison trap’. All mummies and babies are unique, doing things in their own way and in their own timing. Listen to ideas and suggestions, but then, through trial and error, discover what works best for you and your baby.
As a first time mum I remember all too well feeling that my baby slept worse than everyone else’s and was more sicky and unsettled! I blamed myself – that I wasn’t good enough, not doing things ‘right’ – and this was why my baby was the way he was.
We all aim to do our very best. As we stand alongside others let us show kindness, be slow to judge, but quick to encourage and cheer them on as they strive to be the best parent they can be.